Tuesday, July 19, 2011

the connections we make

It's strange, this virtual world.  On our blogs, flickr, twitter, facebook, instagram we often share intimate details of our lives.  Sometimes with words and other times through a photograph that needs no narrative or description.  And in this world we get to know each other even though we never meet.  We come to expect and look forward to visits and comments from certain people, we feel like we know their dogs, their spouses, their children...their good days and bad.


I was touched recently when I started to see tributes to a blogger named "Char" who apparently died suddenly in June.  I was not in her direct blogging circle, but some of the blogs I follow were connected to her. I have run across many lovely posts about her in recent weeks. It made me think about the importance of the connections we make on our blogs, the impact we have on each other, and how precious our webfriends are to us.

Similarly, I was shocked to log onto one of my favorite iphoneography sites on Sunday to find that a member of our little community died in a tragic motorcycle accident on Saturday in Oregon.  While I never met him, Nacho Cordova was a wonderful photographer and artist, a fabulous and frequent commenter on flickr and iphoneart, and what I like to call, a bloggy friend.  He was especially taken by my "Year of Restaurant Selfies" photos on flickr and always had the most thought-provoking comments about the way I was standing, holding the camera, tilting my head, whether my eyes were peeking over the camera.  He actually made me evaluate my work in a way I hadn't before. (for an example, you can click the photo below and see one of Nacho's many observant comments.)

kingswood.

I featured this photo below of his on Mortal Muses back in March and he was so thrilled that he wrote an amazing piece about the site on his blog (which is unfortunately not functioning right now or I would link to it).  When I shared it with the other muses we were all so taken by his words and how he described our photography collaborative in a way that we had never done ourselves.  He just had that way about him.

{"who sings to us in silence?" by Nacho Cordova}

The outpouring of support and sadness about his passing has been incredible on iphoneart.com, flickr, life in lofi, EyeEm and various other iphoneography blogs and sites.  Although we are spread all over the world, technology makes it so easy for us to connect but we can just as easily be separated by one moment in time that changes everything.  I can't help this week but be very aware of the frailty of life.  Although I never met Nacho, I and many others will miss his support and unique perspective.  My thoughts are with his family and friends.

No linkys today.

27 comments:

R Montalban said...

That is true when you make any connection with a person, but in blogs/facebook/etc., there can be an even greater feeling of a connection at times. Sorry to hear about Nacho and the sadness that has brought to all that knew him.

olivia said...

so sorry about your bloggy friend, your post was really touching today!

Laura said...

Over the last 18 months photography has opened a door to a world of new friends. Most of them I have never met or spoken to but I have seen a glimpse of their daily lives. Shared in their many emotions. Some of joy, frustration and sadness. With this you feel you have a special unique link with people. Life is very precious. My thoughts go out to Nacho's family and friends.

Dorian Susan said...

I too think about bloggy friends....and you're one. We're connected certainly by our dogs and a couple linkys we post in common. I think you were someone I found relatively early in my blogging-and I love and admire your city images that contrast with my rural ones. I like our exchange of comments from time to time.
I didn't know of Nacho, but I love the quote or question below the photo. I'm sorry his "voice" will be missed and sorry I only know this one quote from it. But it is a good one. This weekend I went to church; I rarely do. The preacher said..."if your feet hit the floor this morning, it's a good day!" He's right. Hope yours is a good day today.

Ashley Sisk said...

I love this piece girl - and I can't believe he died. I remember those kind words he wrote several months ago...we were all so touched.

It's interesting - I sometimes wonder how long I'll do this blogging thing...if I'll ever meet my blogging friends...what happens when we're gone. I've only been at it just under 2 years, but I can imagine that losing a blog friend is much like losing any other friend.

missing moments said...

A beautiful and powerful post today. So sorry for this loss ... As someone joining the party late in the blogging community, I'm just beginning to see the magic and power of these friendships.
Some truly remarkable talented people like yourself open up their worlds and great me to their day.

Anika said...

Beautiful post Christy...so true.

I joined a bit too late to "meet" Nacho but he sounded like such a remarkable artist.

Alita said...

I second what Ashley said. Losing an online friend would be much like losing a friend that we see every day. Just because we don't "know" them doesn't mean we don't know them. I'm sorry that you loss your bloggy friend. I know my heart would be broken if any of my bloggy friends were to pass. There are some people that I've "met" online that hold a special piece of my heart.

Alita

maureen said...

Beautifully written post. I often think my online friends know me so much better than my 'real life' friends, and each day I look forward to seeing what my blog and flickr friends are up to.
I do remember Nacho's sweet post about our blog, I was so touched. I am so sorry to hear of his loss, he was certainly a special soul. My thoughts are with his family and friends.
xo
Mo

mosey said...

Eloquently and touchingly written, my friend. We are all connected whether we've ever met face-to-face or not... kim xx

Oliag said...

This is so beautifully written..what a wonderful tribute to your friend. I was a blogging friend of Char and at her sudden death I had to stop and think about these internet connections. They are so unreal and yet so real in many ways. You describe these new friendships so well. I still miss Char's blogging voice and I am saddened for the loss of your friend too.

Suki said...

Such a beautiful post, my friend. Through this strange thing blogging is, we can stay anonymous, never reveal too much or all of our heart. We connect deeply over topics that touch our hearts too. That's such a cool thing to experience.

So sad he passed away. I bet he was an awesome soul. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.

xxx

Kirstin said...

What a thoughtful piece. I do feel such amazing connections with my virtual friends. And even more so when we meet up.
He sounds like he inspired many souls as he went through life. And surely that is what blogging is about.

Rhônya Holman said...

Your words are beautifully written — I'm touched and deeply saddened. I heard about him before but wasn't in his circle of friends either. I admired his style and the photographs are with incredible feeling: he definitely loved taken pictures. What saddens me is that some people need situations like this to be thankful and appreciate more what we have in this life, to enjoy every moment because it's precious. May he rest in peace!

Have a lovely week! =(^.^)=

Jamie said...

What a beautiful tribute. I don't know him, but after reading your post I wish I had.

I'm amazed at the relationships I've had grow online and how quickly they've become critical to me, how fortunate we are to have found people who share our interests and how sad to lose one.

Veronica said...

what a great post. I also have enjoyed your shots on flikr and marvel at the talent we get to share and meet on a daily basis. Your post made me sad yet grateful for these friendships we make via the web....

Krystal said...

this was beautiful said - it gave me goosebumps but it is so true, the way we connect with people on here through these blogs...i've definitely made friends.

Stephanie said...

It really is amazing how we can form a connection with someone we've never met before simply through our writing and photos. My boyfriend asked me recently what it was that I liked about blogging. The best way I could describe it was to say that it's kind of like having a pen pal - except you have many, not just one, and you can be in touch with each other everyday. It's amazing how blogging is more than just "social networking" - it's social connecting.

I'm very sorry to hear about Nacho. His work is beautiful and my thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends (both the real-life kind and the blogger kind).

amberlee said...

I never thought i would establish the connections i have in my blogging world. Friends come in so many different ways. This post is beautiful, your words mean so much. Sorry about your blog friend xx

LB said...

There have been so many posts in the past few days on the topic of friendship, what defines it, what makes a true friend. There must be something in the air. I'm fairly new to the "blogoshphere" but I feel like I've made a few great connections in that short amount of time and I'm excited for what the friendships the future holds. I'm truly sorry about Nacho and his friends and family are in my thoughts, including you.

Geri Centonze said...

It is amazing the many "friends" and connections we make on the internet through our various travels through blogs, etc. So glad to have your caring and compassionate spirit as a new member of artsee bloggers!

Courtney said...

I'm so sorry about your friend's passing. Tragic. This is a wonderful post. So very true - my webfriends are very dear to me. Who would have thought?

lisa said...

Christy, this is a beautiful tribute to Nacho. It is a very sad time for so many whose lives he enriched.

Cheryl said...

I hear you, sister. It happens in the blink of an eye. I love the connections I make with fellow bloggers. There are times when it's the only thing keeping me going.

Nancy @ A Rural Journal said...

Life is fragile. Situations like this makes that fact all so glaringly clear.

Anna said...

So sorry to hear of your friends death. You've written a lovely tribute. His work looks amazing!!!

AB said...

I have just followed you links to Nacho Cordova's photos. They are great. Surely, one of many reasons he will be missed.